One way to handle this season is to intentionally create space for your feelings. You do not have to force joy. You can acknowledge your grief, pray through it, and let God hold it for you. Sometimes writing down your feelings, talking with someone you trust, or quietly sitting with God can bring relief. Even lighting a candle, listening to soft music, or reading Scripture can provide a gentle anchor for your soul.
Another way is to focus on the heart of Christmas. Beyond gifts, parties, and traditions, Christmas is about God coming near, about Emmanuel. He understands loneliness, sorrow, and brokenness because He entered a world that carried all of it. Leaning into Him, reflecting on His presence and love, can bring peace even when joy feels distant.
It’s also okay to protect your energy. If certain gatherings, songs, or social media triggers make the ache worse, it is not sinful to step back. Give yourself permission to grieve, to remember, and to simply survive the season. Sometimes the best thing you can do is show yourself the same kindness God shows you.
Finally, find small ways to bring light into your own heart and the lives of others. Acts of kindness, reaching out to someone who may be struggling, or quietly serving without expectation can create moments of connection and purpose even when your own joy feels dim.
Remember, this season does not demand that you feel happy all the time. It only invites you to let God meet you where you are, in your sadness, your hope, your memories, and your longing.
Prayer:
God, this season is hard for me. My heart feels heavy, and the world’s cheer feels far away. Meet me in this sadness. Hold the parts of me that ache. Help me to feel Your presence even when joy feels distant. Teach me to be gentle with myself and to trust that You are near, Emmanuel, with me in every sorrow and every hope. Amen.
- Ellie Mont